Sunday, February 11, 2007
Relationships
It's been a long time since i blogged about relationships. been quite affected with ppl's relationship happening around me.I'm actually quite hapy for Ah ma for finding Ah gong as her match. and she said yes!! Congrats my dear fren.. i really wish u'll be happy with ur dear Ah Gong. next time we meet up, i hope to hear from u alone about the proposal he gave.. hee..
Everyone around me is getting married, preparing to get married, getting a flat.. just short of having kids.. which i don't mind.. ah ma, quick get kids hor, cos i want to play with them..
What is the duration of courtship before u think that a couple should settle down? some ppl feels that not too long cos the relationship needs a renewal after awhile, if not might not work, some ppl feels that they don't need to get married, some ppl wants to settle down fast, some ppl wants to go thru the stage where they live together for a period of time b4 they are certain if he/she is really THE ONE. I am the pragmatic one.. need to wait for ah boy to put rice on the table..
ok, let's now talk about the quality of courtship.. does it have to be full of roses, presents, surprises and romance? for me, not much of a surprise.. cos i can't keep the surprise myself.. hee.. romance would depend on the expectation u have of the experience.. to some ppl, a candlelight dinner can be very romantic, to some, sharing a movie at the cinema, sharing a plate of rice, shopping together can be very romantic. to me, spending quality time with ur loved one is very romantic.
i agree that i might not be the sensitive party in my relationship, but i am the more enthusiastic one, to say the very least.. enthusiastic means to cheer ah boy up when he is down, to pass him tissues, buy him food and chocolates, create little blunders and accidents for him to laugh at me and hate me for (the most recent is cursing him "mai hum, mai hum" for char kway tiao and he suffered for 1 wk, and counting.." and send many smses to complain about my life.. er.. and i'm quite glad he is very sensitive. to the very least, he tries not to call me and disturb me when i'm busy.. and he understands when i dun reply the smses immediately. he is one who gives me space for myself (and to spring surprises sometimes) and my family. even though we are a couple, it doesn't mean that i have to hang out with him every wkend (in fact i dun usually meet him on wkends), it doesn't mean that i have to give up going out with my friends and make excuses to them to say "i don't feel" like going out, when in fact i am meeting him. we can always make alternative arrangements, since we understand each other's life. and i seldom take him out when i meet my gal friends, cos gals-only outing are reserved for sharing of deep thoughts and gossips about boyfriends.
i think our relationship has gone simpler in many ways.. not too much of romance, but more on companionship and being supportive in whatever we are doing in live. not too much of contact, but more of quality contact so that we will cherish each other more when we meet. not too much of gd food, but quality and nice food.. i really do think that "Absence makes the heart fonder". i think we are each other's cheerleader, cos we cheer each other up and gives each other the motivation to work harder.
definitely, we're no longer in the honeymoon stage of the courtship, but the love never fades. it has matured, i feel. matured to the extent that newfound friends might think that we each appear to be unattached, but we are very much attached in spirit.
and happy V-day to all!! in advance. i will be celebrating it with my ah boy, with a simple hawker fare. SERIOUS! i'm not complaining, cos i'm on diet anyway.. anything to fatten u is my pleasure! :) and thanks for the lovely hello kitty jewellery case (which i requested for)! hee.. simply love it..
| posted by clouds at 11:13 PM
